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Sweet Tea & Parenting


I was sitting here having a nice glass of sweet tea when it hit me.  Being a single mom was hard, but the hurt I feel about the absent parents in my life have never been about child support.  No!  I had to do everything on my own.  Money will never undo the pain a mother feels when she looks at her children when they are disappointed.  I mean, there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it because you can’t control the other parent!  It’s unfortunate too because the absent parent goes on about their life expecting someone else to do their job!  Then when you remarry, and your spouse fulfills that role as a stepparent, they get zero respect from the absent parent. I was a stepmom, so not only was I a single mom to my kids I was also a single mom to a stepchild.  

If you are going to have unprotected sex, please be prepared to raise your children!  Don't expect the other parent to do it all alone!  I must say I am super proud of my daughter Alexandria because she didn't request child support!  She asked for 50/50 parenting time, so the dad is carrying his share of the responsibilities.  And while we’re on the subject, let’s talk about not handing that responsibility over to your parent because they want to enjoy being grandparents.   Your parents do not want to tend to your kids 24/7 unless it’s an emergency!  I’m a grandma, and I’ll tell you right now my kids raise their own, and I am very proud of them for that! 

Much Love 

Tina Louise


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