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Redemption

I have to say that I am shocked by Nick’s reaction to my blog.  He was upset and took a 24-hour break from talking to me but then...he talked. That's right. He didn't run. He didn't blame me. He talked and I listened.  I think I may have found a safe place for my heart, mind, body, and soul.  We are dating now which is a new concept for us both.  Freewill can be a beautiful thing.  Monday evening I met him at the same pilot truck stop but this time we exchanged  “I miss you” and “let's not fight anymore”.  Communication is still the key to a healthy relationship.     I am a woman who knows what she wants.  It has taken me awhile to get here, but I am certain it is a man who holds my cherished core values.  I can laugh with Nick and disagree with him.  He isn't spooked.  So next time you want to throw in the towel I suggest you write your significant other a letter.  They might just surprise you!  Much Love Tina Louise

Fades with Time

Looks fade, sexual desire fades but how someone treats you never fades. 

Please Pray for my Daughter & her Family

I have been beside myself with worry since I learned that Ashley, Matthew, Ellie, and Elijah have covid-19.  Then Ashley had an ER visit but they sent her home.  Janna messaged me that Ellie had RSV and Covid so I haven't slept much.  I continue to light candles and pray.  I want to wrap my arms around them and be there when they need a sip of water or a warm blanket.  Yesterday I was sent a picture of Ashley in the ER and I had a total meltdown.  It looked just like the pictures David sent me.  She had on the B-pap which isn't a good sign.  I feel so helpless because there is nothing I can do.  I want to be there and hold her while she sleeps.  I know she is a grown woman but she will always be my baby!!!!  Matthew 17:17 & 18  Then Jesus answered and said, O faithless and perverse generation, how long shall I be with you? how long shall I suffer you? bring him hither to me.  18) And Jesus rebuked the devil, and he departed out of him: and the child was cured from that very

The Break-Up

As a writer, I have always lived by the philosophy that if people wanted you to write warmly about them then they should behave warmly.  However, sometimes writing about my personal experiences can be daunting.  I want to share the good, bad, and ugly with you so you can know the whole story, but some parts of the story are best left unspoken.   Here is my part of the story... I started talking to Nick through Facebook dating on July 25, 2021.  Over the last month I allowed things to flow naturally.  I let him into my life and gave him complete trust and access to my heart.  I let my guard down.  From July 25th to August 25th Nick had all of me.  I refused to let others' past transgressions spill into this new relationship.  We were exchanging "I love you's" and we became intimate within the first week. We were talking about marriage and babies too. I know you're probably thinking we were insane, but everything felt right.  We laughed and had many good conversatio

Bad Day

My first bit of bad news is that I have several projects in the works but I can't afford to publish them.   I had a bad week overall with my health and I broke up with my boyfriend.  We are still talking but it is not the same as it was before I ended it.  Of course, he doesn't feel he did anything wrong, but I remember how it felt being the worried girlfriend at home.  I thought I could handle it but now I know truly how difficult it will be to be alone all the time.  He continues to tell me that he told me his plans that night, but I honestly do not remember him telling me.   I am not trying to be belligerent but hell fire it is hard enough dating a truck driver who is home maybe 30 days a year!  We just started our relationship so I am trying to keep up while handling MS fog.  Yes, I am venting here so do not take anything I say as advice.  Dating in 2021 is hard, not to mention dating after being married for over two decades.  I am not foolish and I do not expect a knight i

18 Wheels & A Dozen Roses

Hey, fans let's just say I didn't let my last dating fiasco keep me down.  I met a man named Nicolas Adair.  I packed my bags, and he took me over the road in his semi.  It was an exciting adventure.  Nick is a tall, dark-headed man with beautiful brown eyes.  To say that I am in love is an understatement.  The man has so much knowledge and can hold his own in any conversation.  We talked for hours and hours about anything and everything.  I got to visit Kentucky, Indiana, and Illinois.  The only downside to being on the truck is not having a toilet exactly when you want one and the bed is a little small.  However, being with Nick out on the open road made me so happy.  His dog Max is a love bug and very protective.   One night while Nick was sleeping I was upfront reading when I looked over to see a driver pouring out something from a large container.  It was one of those times I wish I had not let something catch my eye, because then he flashed his penis at me while asking if

If Your Dating in Tennessee Beware

Ladies I am working on a story about dating, but I had to pause today and write this blog!   I must tell you that if you live in Huntsville, Tennessee please avoid a man named Adam Lee Lambert.  He is on Facebook dating seeking disabled women.  He tells a story about having serious car accidents and cancer.  He claims to have run out of his pain medicine and attempts to guilt you into loaning him some of your medicine until he gets his refill.  DO NOT EVER DO THIS!!  It is a FELONY!  Then out of the blue he will send money to your cash app and claim he bought them from you.  Before you know it he is trying to blackmail you.    I have reported him to the TBI, Tenncare, and his doctor.  I have spoken to the local police in Wartburg.     I always share the good, bad and ugly in my blog post but this is different.  I want to protect women from this awful man.  He has sent me messages on my phone and Facebook threatening to post nude pictures of me on the internet and to tell the police tha

Patience

Relationships are so complicated these days.  I have run into men who want to have sex but don’t want to get to know you.  They want to see your body naked but showing them your mind is off-limits.  It is so frustrating.  Some guys have asked me for nudes while others say it makes you a slut.  Those same men freely send unsolicited dick pictures to women they have never met. Ladies my best advice is to stop giving yourself away to these immature boys.  Love yourself enough to be patient and wait.  There are good men in the world who will protect your heart instead of breaking it.  I am having to take my advice here because since the funeral my philosophy changed.  Until you have an event in your life like death I don’t think you think about it.  Time isn’t running out until it does.  So this week I am learning patience.  I pray all is well with you.  Much Love  Tina Louise

It's June Already???

  The weather is beautiful here in Wartburg and my tomatoes are turning red.  As the winds blow a cool breeze off the hills I met someone unexpectedly and I pray my days of dating are over.  I am going to wait a while before I share him with the world because he is one in a million!  He likes me just the way I am.  Do you know how rare that is these days?  My family is doing good and I even got word that my dad is doing good.  I pray for them daily and hope to see them all soon.   Alexandria let me keep the baby so I have now done everything I used to do with David all by myself.  I sure miss him, this Father's Day was another reminder that he is gone.  We all grow differently and I personally always thought I needed someone to survive but I just needed to find myself.  I didn't need a prince charming.  After being completely on my own I eventually found self-reflection works for me.   I also found good doctors who took the time to find out that I wasn't crazy.  I have disa

Highs & Lows

I had a beautiful time camping with my son and grandson!  I recommend staying at the Rock Creek Campgrounds down by Nemo bridge.   Later on Sunday night, my son told me that my ex and his new wife made an unexpected visit to his music store.  Austin said he left because he has nothing to say to him.  When he was finished talking, I could feel my blood started boiling!   I could not believe that Ashley continues to do things to hurt her family.  She is making friends with the man who molested her and her sister!  She is inviting him to her home and allowing him to be around my grandchildren.  What the fuck is wrong with my child!  It’s one thing to find your biological parent and form a relationship with him, but it’s another thing to kiss the ass of your adoptive father, who is also a pedophile!  She is trying to destroy all her relationships with the people who loved her all of her life. Not only did she accuse me of bashing her head into a coffee table when she was a teenager, but sh

IL MAKIAGE

  Anything I try is not sponsored.  Today I am reviewing the IL MAKIAGE to makeup line.  My eyes are very swollen and itchy after using concealer.  The brush that they sent is no better than the one I can get at the dollar tree, and the eyeliner is a cheaper version of LimeLife.  The foundation is not full coverage, and it looks nothing like the videos I have seen on Facebook.  It also has a weird odor that reminds me of paint—the concealer applicator gets stuck...  I’d much rather go to Walgreens and get Maybelline than pay $72 for IL MAKIAGE.   After two days, I am printing the label and sending it back.  I’m very disappointed in this company because I was so excited when it first arrived.  My reviews are candid, but I always welcome people to try it themselves.   Much Love Tina Louise 

Sweet Tea & Parenting

  I was sitting here having a nice glass of sweet tea when it hit me.  Being a single mom was hard, but the hurt I feel about the absent parents in my life have never been about child support.  No!  I had to do everything on my own.  Money will never undo the pain a mother feels when she looks at her children when they are disappointed.  I mean, there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it because you can’t control the other parent!  It’s unfortunate too because the absent parent goes on about their life expecting someone else to do their job!  Then when you remarry, and your spouse fulfills that role as a stepparent, they get zero respect from the absent parent. I was a stepmom, so not only was I a single mom to my kids I was also a single mom to a stepchild.   If you are going to have unprotected sex, please be prepared to raise your children!  Don't expect the other parent to do it all alone!  I must say I am super proud of my daughter Alexandria because she didn't request

Happy Mother's Day

Hey readers!! I am living a busy life now up here in the mountains. Living with Multiple Sclerosis and living independently is no easy task, but I am thriving! I am so sorry that I forget to update you! I have spent the last 43 days unpacking, exploring, grieving, and falling in love! Remember, you can always check out my social media on Facebook, TikTok, Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat. I promise I am finished with my second book, but right now, I don't have much time to promote it.   Today is Mother's Day! I had a fabulous meal with Austin, Lauren, and Alexandria the other night! I also got some much-needed grandma time with Jackson, Kai, and Jeremiah! Christopher enjoyed family time, and the kids were so kind to him.   I can now tell you a little about my Christopher. He has worked the same job for 20 years, and he has never been married or had children. He is also a filmmaker, producer, and photographer. He is probably the nicest man I have ever met, and he has never been

Moving On

        I am 100% moved away from anyone I have ever known.  My new peace and sanity with beautiful mountain views come with minimal internet service, but I am happy!  Hannah and I are settling in a while exploring the town.  The song “Moving On” by Rascal Flatts fits me perfectly right now.  Everything I owned in storage and from my daughters and sisters arrived yesterday.   I can no longer be falsely accused of anything.  I am completely disconnected from Ashley and the craziness.  Brian got what he wanted, so maybe now I will have a life free of emotional abuse.  This is the last time I will even speak their names in my blog!  I do pray they start taking responsibility for their actions and keep my name out of their mouth!   On to happy news!  I love my apartment!  Hannah is doing great!  Christopher is fantastic, and our relationship is more vital than I could have ever imagined!  Alexandria and Austin are superstar parents, and my sister is settling into her new house!  My momma i

Update

  I went to court, and the judge awarded Ashley the Order of Protection.  He also informed her that she has no control over what I post on social media especially pictures of my grandchildren.  She might hate me and desire to be cruel to me, but she can not take away the fact I am her mother, and I am Grandma!  She can't Erase the past eleven years.  I have been a grandma since 2010 when Brayden was born.  She can't erase all the diapers I have changed, bottles I fed, hugs and kisses I gave, or the love in my heart!  She can't win the love from her biological father by doing his dirty work! Tuesday morning was terrible, but my son took me to lunch and offered me a part-time job. I was beaming with joy! I worked yesterday, and it was as though I never left.  The intense pressure from my dad was absent, and I had zero anxiety!  I got a call from Adult Services because someone made a report on my daughters.  Now I gave a caseworker who is getting me into an apartment.  I wil

Multiple Sclerosis Awareness Month

We call Multiple Sclerosis a snowflake disease because the symptoms constantly change.  It has no cure, and no one can explain the why of the disease.   I remember the day like it was yesterday.  On January 11, 2017, Dr. Gaw, after many tests, told me I had Multiple Sclerosis.  If I sound like a broken record, many people are just now getting diagnosed today, and I want them to know that they are not alone.   You might have someone in your life sitting in a quiet doctor's office waiting on test results.  They are going to need you now more than ever.  Navigating a disease that is so unpredictable can take its toll on a person.  They need all the love and support that you can muster.   Much Love, Tina Louise

Life is Good

  Good is an understatement!  I am on cloud nine and enjoying every single minute!  Christopher and I celebrated Charlie and Jackson's birthday, indulged in ice cream, camped in the backyard, and got our first shots of the new vaccine!  I got to spend the day with Kai and visit with Jerimiah too!  He is getting so big now.  Ashley Land had another beautiful baby girl, and I got to hold her at the party.  Kids grow up so fast :( I have almost finished my screenplay for Cabin 10, and soon I will publish my second book.  I am back focusing on my work when my health allows. This week's big news is that I sat down with detective Duke and now every aspect of abuse from my childhood was reported to the police.  All the criminal activity I saw as a teenager is officially in a police report.  I feel 100% better knowing I am closing that chapter of my life!   I am looking forward to the future, trying to ignore the negative!  What negative, you might ask?  Well, Ashley is back at her old

What??

I can't believe David has been gone 148 today.  I also can't think I've been so busy that I haven't blogged in 40 days.   The big news is I decided to go to the police in Sparta.  It might not lead to charges, but I will finally close that chapter of my life.  I have already been in contact with them, so I pray everything goes smoothly.  I recently moved in with my sister to get some peace in my life.  I am taking it one day at a time and even one hour at a time on bad days.  God put me back in touch with everyone who ever knew me.  If the police do prosecute my step-uncle or dad, I have more than enough witnesses to verify my story.  I am ready to speak to the masses and help those who live in fear.   Life is good and I am so thankful that I was able to survive the last 43 years.  Watching my grandchildren is the ultimate blessing.   Much Love, Tina Louise Kirby 

Grinder House Coffee

Last night I went on my very first official date.   The man asked me to go to dinner, handed me flowers at the beginning of the date, and gave me a soft kiss good night after a great evening!   All the simple things that mean so much I never got to experience them without an expectation of sex.  Child Abuse robs you of almost everything.  It is like you almost become a robot and you go through life doing like you know you have to do to survive.  well last night I got to live in the moment and it was so nicee!   Men don’t properly date women much anymore, but I made my mama promise that this time things were going to be different!   Back to the date :)  We went to Grinder House, and I ordered my favorite coffee.  We had dinner, and the music was excellent. It was a special treat just to hear live music!   After 2020 I didn't think we would ever get to go to concerts again.  The Band “Towne” was something out of the Bluebird or the Opray. Do you remember the comedy that came with hea

New Beginnings

I have spent my days crying and praying.  All my thoughts and feelings have been racing.  I had searched my soul.  I was determined to wait for Scott.  I wasn’t going to give up on him.  I wrote him letters only for him to block all avenues of communication.  Empathy made me blind.  My heart and brain are finally in sync!  I see that no matter what I say or do, Scott isn’t the man God meant to love me.  When you love someone the way I loved Scott and David, it can be so painful to let go.  You want to see the man they can be, and you highlight the positives while ignoring the negative.  **** the days of being cheated on!  I am worth more, and I finally see that.  I am not talking bad about David because he has paid for his sins, but the scars he left hurt me for years.   My fairytale is coming true but with a real prince.   I have met someone.  I am keeping our relationship all to myself for as long as I can.  I wasn’t looking for anything when he walked into my life.  We are going on

The Widows of Rona

Being alone gives your mind so much time to wonder.  Today was hard because I met David 23 years ago today.   On Facebook, I wrote this “ Life is so short.  Other than a few close family and friends, life seems so meaningless to me now.  I find myself turning to tell him something, and he isn’t there.  I even went to text him a picture of Jackson being cute, and it hit me.  I often ask myself, “what now?”.  My person is gone.  That is the ugly side of grief that hurts the most.  It is instant loneliness.  It is as though the writer abruptly ended the book without finishing the story.  In one single second, my entire life changed forever.  Don’t take your loved ones for granted.  You never know what tomorrow may bring!” If you have been following my story, then you know 2020 was the worst year of my life.  2019 was the runner up!  It is 2:06 in the morning, and I don’t know what to do with myself anymore.  I want to love someone and to be loved because I am lonely.  I know how to be a d

Happy New Year

First, I want to congratulate my baby sister, who moved into her first new home with her husband and children today!  It was fantastic to get some good news, especially in our family!   2020 has been a challenging year for everybody, so it’s tough for me to be excited about the new year.  I miss David more and more each day.  The news is grim, so I try to avoid it.  Most days, I escape into a YouTube video or one of my little games on my phone.   On Christmas Eve, I fell on the ice at my sister's house, and I broke my wrist and a few ribs.  The hospital put a temporary cast on it, and yesterday I got to see the orthopedic doctor.  He said I was fortunate because I broke my radius, but it was a clean break, and it was flush, so it’s growing back together correctly.  I was just happy that I don’t have to have surgery!   Over the past week, I’ve made peace with many people and given a lot of forgiveness, but I still haven’t talked to my father.  I just don’t know if that relationship

Jack Daniels

I don't know where to start.  I know I get judged everytime I write something by people who have no right to judge.  However, I am not here for them!  I am here for myself and those struggling to navigate life.  It's been 78 days since Dave passed away.  Life has been one hot mess in 2020, but hold on it gets better with each passing day!   I can add another disappointment to my journal.  His name is David Jason Denton.  We went to Elementary school together and he was in a hard spot so I did what I always do.  I helped him out.  However this time I seen all the signs early on so to the left he went!  I think at this point in my life, I have realized so many things about relationships.  I don’t think I’ll ever be able to have a successful one, with a person that lies.   My birthday was magical because I made new friends and got to spend time with my son.  It’s Christmas Eve and I can’t sleep.  Me and Jack Daniels have become good friends and I blocked anyone negative out of my

Update 12/09/2020

Well, HELLO :) Here is an update on the financial situation.   So much has happened since I last wrote.  Currently, I am living back with my youngest daughter in Crossville.   We raised $1,400 on GoFundMe for David’s funeral.  From those funds, $900 was from David’s former employer, and the rest was from my friends and family.  David had filed disability a year before his death, so his attorney said our daughter might get the back pay owed to him if it is approved.  Then we found out the back payment will have to be split between all his children, and it would be January or February of 2021 before we will even know.  It’s not right, but it’s the law in Tennessee.  I had already taken down the GoFundMe because I thought I would be able to pay it off.  So I told the funeral home I would pay $150 a month for now.   If you would like to help, I have Venmo, Cash App, and PayPal, which charge much less compared to GoFundMe.  GoFundMe takes a fee from every donation.  Also, you can make a pay

Hello Folks

I can’t believe David has been gone for five weeks and two days.  I am safe sleeping on my sister's couch!  My baby sister and her husband are buying their first home, so right after Christmas, we will be moving.  I am so excited for them, but I can’t help think we won’t be in the house where David visited anymore. I miss him so much.  I am reading a book by Kim Murdock titled “Feeling Left Behind.”   It is helping me grieve, which is a never-ending roller coaster of emotion.  My friends on TikTok keep me laughing when I feel like dying.  I know moving will help me as it will be a fresh start.  I put on David's 2x Florida Gators hoddie today, and I felt how much weight I have lost.  Sometimes I can't eat for nausea.  I am not a drinker, but I feel the need for some Jack Daniels.  I have gone to the storage building once, and I had a major anxiety attack.  Death sucks, and you have to take the emotions as they come, or you will never work through them.  I love you all - Tina

Why do I blog?

Someone asked me why do I share my “private struggles” with the world.  My simple answer is, “I might save a life.”  The longer answer is, “this is my platform; it is my safe place to share my journey.”  I am never as free as I am when I am writing.  I don't feel like I am walking on eggshells being judged by those on my friends list.  Sometimes I just need to get something off my chest so I can relax.  Other times I feel I have something important to say.   For years, I had invisible duck tape on my mouth, and if I dared to remove it, someone would call me down.  Now I have a place that I can be myself, and if someone doesn't like what I say, they can avoid my website.   I am not a medical professional and nothing I say is medical, or legal advice, but I do have experience in many things.  That is all I can share with any of you. Much Love Tina Louise 

What?

What??? Yes, that was my exact response when Michael screamed at me.  On Halloween, Michael came in from visiting his children and unloaded on me for posting our relationship on social media.  He said he didn’t want his life on display.  Fire ran through my body as I loaded everything I owned in my car and left Sparta for good this time.  I have finished my second manuscript and don’t plan on hiding anymore from anyone.  I am so sick of being told who I should be and what I should do with my life by people older than me, who still don’t have their life together.  Tomorrow is a new day, and my baby sister always has my back. I am safe and warm tonight on her couch, and soon both our lives will change for the better.  Tonight Michael dared to message me, saying that I wasn’t doing enough to promote my book.  Writing my autobiography was never about money or 15 minutes of fame.  It is my story, and I walked through hell.  He doesn’t get to judge me or demand I give up part of who I am to

Hallows' Eve

It has been two weeks since I wrote, and my life has changed so much.  On October 20, 2020, I moved in with my high school sweetheart and his mom.  They live in a camper on the White/Dekalb County line.  The insurance company paid off my camper and gave me $1,900.00, so I bought Alexandria’s extra car and moved all my possessions to a climate-controlled storage.  It was time for me to go out in the world on my own because being in that bedroom alone brought about depression and, ultimately, suicidal thoughts.  Moving out and being around laughter has helped me so much.  My living conditions are not ideal for disabled persons but overall, my mental health is 100% better.  Alexandria picked me up on October 26, 2020, and I got to spend some time with the boys while she went to the doctor.  Austin is still in coronavirus quarantine, but he is doing much better.  Ashley called me a whore and blocked me on everything.  I really never know how to respond to Ashley when she says such horrible

Memory of David Milligan

QUALITY PRIVATE DUTY CARE of Jamestown, Tennessee neglected a patient who had COVID-19 and did not inform staff and did not provide PPE for the home. They ignored all alerts. My daughter unknowingly brought the virus home, and it killed my husband. My three-month-old grandson was also admitted into Children’s hospital. They do not take care of patients or staff. They have been rude to our family and refused to help with funeral expenses on 10-14-2020. Our family had avoided Coronavirus for nine months. We cleaned everything, wore a mask, and stayed at home. We sprayed alcohol on everything. Grocery pickup and Amazon was the only shopping we did for months. My husband and I lived with my daughter and her two sons. September 7, 2020, my daughter started working for Quality Private Care. She alerted her supervisor that her patient was sick. They ignored the alert. September 11, 2020 my daughter became sick and went to the Emergency Room. She tested positive for COVID-19 and st

Highs & Lows

Coronavirus has kicked my butt!  My grandson was in the children’s hospital for two days, and now he is back home.  He tested positive for coronavirus, so we have slept much more than expected.  David still has a cough, but he got secondary pneumonia on top of all his other health problems.  Life at home isn't back to normal, but our quarantine is over tomorrow, so I pray we get out of the house some next week.  My favorite season is here, and the weather has been much cooler.  I pray I get to work again in the future, but right now, watching my grandsons use my spoons up every day.   I did hear through the grapevine that my dad and stepmom have been having dinner with Ashely.  I was also told Ashley spent father's day with her biological father.   I was pleased to get this news because it means everyone has gone on with their lives, and they are letting me live mine.  Months ago, I told you once everyone had their job outside of the music stores, I felt profound relief. I am