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Don't be the only one

Recently I had a conversation with someone about relationships and balance.  They were flustered because they felt like they were the only one in the relationship.  As I listened, I quickly could relate to their feelings.

The first one might not seem like a huge deal, but if you are the only one in the relationship taking pictures of the two of you as a couple 🚩#1.

If you’re the only one in the relationship who plans vacations, date nights or anniversaries 🚩#2

If you’re the only one to initiate intimacy 🚩 #3

If your partner ignores your feelings and try’s to explain away your thoughts as paranoia, silliness or stupidity 🚩 #4

If your partner only shows interest in you when someone else shows interest 🚩 #5

If your partner never asks you to go places with them 🚩 #6

If your partner ignores your personal preferences and insists that you try food, drinks or activities that they want 🚩 #7

If you buy your partner gifts and surprise them, but you have to tell them what you want and order it yourself 🚩 #8

If they are always focused on their needs (financial, medical, emotional or physical) and continually forget yours 🚩 #9

If you find that you have spent years forgiving this person for hurting you, but they expect you to be perfect 🚩#10

These are just a few of the red flags I could relate to during the conversation.  It is hard to be in a relationship where you feel alone.  You deserve better, and you do not have to accept this behavior as the typical norm!


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